Messages between Jesse & Tanyn

4/18 2:28pm

Jesse: can I sound needy?

Jesse: I legit feel I haven’t seen you in a long time and need some 1:1 TJ time

4/18 2:30pm

Tanyn: remember last time I left for a week and then had to take another week because I got covid?

4/18 2:31pm

Jesse: ya the dreaded napa trip, didn’t see you for a long time in the flesh

 

 

4/19 10:29am

Jesse: at least I have the house to myself for part of the day which is great

4/19 10:33am

Tanyn: nice

Tanyn: I love having the house to myself especially since it rarely happens

4/19 10:33am

Jesse: same

Jesse: this is magical

Jesse: get to wear no pants

4/19 10:34am

Tanyn: that’s what you look forward to? Not silence?

Jesse: pantless silence

Jesse: sorry I thought this was America

4/19 10:35am

Tanyn: you do you, I just thought silence would be #1

4/19 10:36am

Jesse: I’m kidding about the pants but no just doing things unadulterated

 

Jesse: Tanyn – what was your terrible decision you made

4/23 9:21am

Tanyn: I don’t have the time to narrow it down, too many

4/23 9:22am

Jesse: TamyLynn – do I need to set up a teams call today

4/23 9:22am

Tanyn: I hate you so much

4/23 9:22am

Jesse: comes from a place of love

4/23 9:24am

Tanyn: yea ok, whatever you say

 

Tanyn: I was a diPerent person on Saturday than I am today

4/29 10:09am

Jesse: were you TamyLynn on Sat?

4/29 10:09am

Tanyn: 100%, she makes terrible decisions

4/29 10:10am

Jesse: can I be honest? Kinda have a crush on TamyLynn

4/29 10:10am

Tanyn: you have issues J

 

Jesse: what is an insta “dp”? and that’s so fucking inappropriate. I’m gonna go out on a limb that Chirag is not your type

4/30 12:08pm

Tanyn: insta dp means my display picture so he slid into my dms to ask about the job and then to say I was cute

Tanyn: ew

4/30: 12:08pm

Jesse: you should turn off accepting messages from strange men from Chirag

Jesse: BLOCK

Jesse: I mean he’s not wrong

 

5/2 9:01am

Jesse: I accidentally stalked you last night

(They were tracking each other’s locations for a year)

Jesse: how was pilates?

5/2 9:02am

Tanyn: accidentally?

Tanyn: it was good, too late though

5/2 9:03am

Jesse: I noticed that

 

5/7 2:12pm

Jesse: that’s so great. Where are these people going to sit? Should you and I share an office? Would that be weird? Would we get any work done?

5/7 2:17pm

Tanyn: we would get nothing done

Tanyn: and yeah, probably would be weird

5/7 2:18pm

Jesse: ok but fun is what I heard

5/7 2:19pm

Tanyn: obvs

Tanyn: it would be the best

 

5/15 1:59pm (they’re talking about Tanyn leaving her job)

Jesse: I hope you know, I’d miss you like crazy but you need to be happy

Jesse: we aren’t going to disappear from seeing one another (sounds weird, no?) but you gotta be happy and make skrilla, you are smart AF

5/15 2:00pm

Tanyn: we did talk about you a little bit, he said he reached out to you a little while ago but heard nothing

Tanyn: I feel like I have so much to tell you because its been so long

5/15 2:05pm

Jesse: ya not conducive to holding a job

Jesse: can we get a proper get together TJ day?

Jesse: like just us

Jesse: I can’t share you with anyone else

5/15 2:05pm

Tanyn: totally

5/15 2:05pm

Jesse: whats next week like for you?

5/15 2:06pm

Tanyn: pretty open actually

 

5/24 8:46am

Tanyn: of course, it’s right there in the title, duh

5/24 8:47am

Jesse: but do we need a head of change and he’s going to get like 4 headcount to hire for what

Jesse: and also didn’t know he was a contractor. Hilarious going from that to Head of Change. Wild

Jesse: from my experience in the tech world, the last job the Head of Title is a big one

Jesse: so you are now head of Payroll

5/24 8:48am

Tanyn: I don’t want to be head of anything

5/24 8:48am

Jesse: good looks department?

 

5/30 9:54am

Tanyn: I have an appointment at 1:00 so I was just going to take the day and do nothing but that didn’t work out 5/30 9:54am

Jesse: ahhh got it

Jesse: you are mysterious

Jesse: I’m fine with it, adds to the allure

5/30 9:55am

Tanyn: omg

5/30 9:55am

Jesse: still wish you told me what you were thinking at yesterdays lunch

5/30 9:55am

Tanyn: its another tattoo

5/30 9:55

Jesse: Tanyn

5/30 9:55am

Tanyn: Jesse

5/30 9:55am

Jesse: this is amazing, tell me about it

5/30 9:55am

Tanyn: I would but I haven’t actually seen it yet 

Tanyn: and I won’t until I’m there

5/30 9:56am

Tanyn: I have nothing planned, going in blind

5/30 9:57am

Jesse: I was thinking this pumpkin on your left butt cheek

Jesse: sure, why not

5/30 11:36

Tanyn: what do I want for lunch?

5/30 11:37am

Jesse: seems like a chicken sando type of day. Tough workout last night, replenish with some carbs and lean protein. Daves hot chicken?

Jesse: do I need to come over and install a faucet and bring you lunch

Jesse: talk about getting a Deevorce

5/30 11:38am

Tanyn: that was a lot 

Tanyn: but 

Tanyn: a fixed faucet sounds great. Haha

5/30 11:38am

Jesse: I ONLY wear a toolbelt

5/30 11:38am

Tanyn: sir, you were doing so good

5/30 11:39am

Jesse: I really wasn’t

Jesse: I was just hanging on

5/30 2:11pm

Jesse: How was Dave’s hot chicken?

5/30 2:11pm

Tanyn: it was all right, I didn’t order it to be spicy enough

5/30 2:12pm

Jesse: that’s a drag, I know exactly what you’re talking about

5/30 2:12pm

Tanyn: it’s my fault, I went medium

5/30 2:12pm

Jesse: you are way more than medium hot

5/30 2:14pm

Tanyn: I give up

5/30 2:15pm

Jesse: with me or work?

5/30 2:17pm Tanyn: both?

 

5/31 8:54am

Jesse: but when I went to bed, something went in my eye and was flushing my eye out for about 45 min, felt like a jalapeno seed was in my eyeball, very painful and its super sore today so might go to eye doc, pretty neat, then I went for a run at 5:30am and got some serious tude when I got back at 6:05

Jesse: so that was GREEAAAATTTT

5/31 8:55am

Tanyn: so you need a new eyeball and still ran?

Tanyn: also 6:05 is too early

5/31 8:58am

Jesse: ya I thought so

Jesse: so I said good morning in my response

Jesse: like an asshole

Jesse: 0 fucks 

(Jesse is bragging to Tanyn about what an asshole he was to me that morning)

5/31 4:41pm

Jesse: Can’t wait to see the butt pumpkin tattoo on Tuesday

Jesse: I’m honestly just curious what it will be

5/31 4:41pm

Tanyn: I’m curious what it’s going to be too

5/31 4:43pm

Jesse: ha. You will get something neat of course. Can you leave yet?

 

6/4 1:27pm

Tanyn: I’m ok, maybe a coffee chat tomorrow

6/4 1:27pm

Jesse: that’d be great, would love that Jesse: at the affair chairs?

6/4 1:28pm

Tanyn: obvs

Tanyn: why would you do that? (Tanyn is upset that Jesse put “affair chairs” in writing)

6/4 1:29pm

Jesse: it was time, then we get to have lunch

Jesse: but sorry?

 

6/5 2:27pm

Jesse: do you have time for me to steal you for coffee?

 

6/6 9:54am

Jesse: you are so funny

Jesse: like your sense of humor is just amazing

Jesse: I love it

6/6 4:26pm

Tanyn: yeah but I feel like you don’t nap every day

6/6 4:26pm

Jesse: we married the same person

6/6 4:27pm

Tanyn: that’s scarry, we can never have them talk to each other

6/6 4:28pm

Jesse: quick question. Do we just validate one another?

6/6 4:29pm

Tanyn: uhhh yeah

 

6/11 12:56pm

Jesse: yes, don’t want anyone to feel left out

6/11 12:57pm

Tanyn: you can keep me left out J

6/11 12:57pm

Jesse: Naomi will be last and most awkward because it is a cul-de-sac Jesse: you were the first one

 

6/17 1:29pm

Tanyn: oh and I wasn’t kidding, if you’re done with golf early, you should stop by and visit us

6/17 1:29pm

Jesse: oh I will

Jesse: I’m 100% serious I will 

(Jesse did end up meeting up with Tanyn after he went golfing)

 

6/26 1:50pm

Tanyn: I feel like tonight is a drinks night

6/26 1:51pm

Jesse: after you get destroyed by trx

Jesse: what’s your favorite place to get a mixed drink in the circle?

6/26 1:51pm

Tanyn: actually it would have to be after therapy

6/26 1:51pm

Jesse: wow, that blows

6/26 1:51pm

Tanyn: yeah today sucks

6/26 1:51pm

Jesse: I just got bummed out

Jesse: I’m sorry

Jesse: but…

Jesse: you look phenomenal

6/26 1:52pm

Tanyn: at least I have 1 thing going for me today

(On June 22, I organized a surprise birthday party for Jesse with 50 of our closest friends)

 

7/2 2:51pm

Tanyn: I want to say, thanks for a very fun lunch. We need to do that more often

7/2 2:58pm

Jesse: That was so damn fun

7/2 3:01pm

Tanyn: we really need to do that more

7/2 3:02pm

Jesse: I have too much fun

7/2: 3:03pm

Tanyn: I’m also really sorry about the salt shaker comment but totally not sorry

7/2 3:04pm

Jesse: can I be honest?

Jesse: not even sure what you are talking about

7/2 3:05pm

Tanyn: awesome

7/2 3:05pm

Jesse: you know me

Jesse: always not wanting to be rude

Jesse: but I am so happy I’m not at work

Jesse: you are fun AF

Jesse: like the best

7/2 4:05pm

Tanyn: I’m also happy you’re not at work. Having such a late 1:1 sucks

7/2 5:15pm

Jesse: make it out if you can tonight

Jesse: please

Jesse: if not I get it

7/2 5:16pm

Tanyn: I’m gonna try

7/2 5:20pm

Jesse: I believe in you

7/2 5:44pm

Tanyn: I’ll try but it’s not looking good

7/2 8:48pm

Jesse: How’s it looking now?

 

7/3 1:33pm

Jesse: ps

Jesse: all day yesterday was so fun

7/3 1:34pm

Tanyn: I had a great time so thank you

7/3 1:34pm

Jesse: also figured you out

Jesse: you are Mary

Jesse: from something about Mary

Jesse: everyone loves you

7/3 2:07pm

Jesse: I had so much fun yesterday

Jesse: you are the best

Jesse: and wait for it

Jesse: so cool

7/3 2:09pm

Tanyn: I can’t wait for next time

Tanyn: and tell Luke I had a great time last night. He’s good people

7/3 2:15pm

 

 7/8 2:07pm

Tanyn: honestly, if we ever get to travel anywhere again, I’m going to make sure we are on the same flights so you get to experience it every time

7/8 2:07pm 

Jesse: I would love that

Jesse: to travel with you

7/8 2:08pm

Tanyn: be prepared for a lot of bad travel luck

7/8 2:08pm

Jesse: more time with T

Jesse: and funny stories

 

7/9 1:56pm

Jesse: what are you doing this afternoon?

7/9 1:57pm

Tanyn: finishing up the last of my laundry and fsa store shopping… then reviewing payroll when marc is done

Tanyn: you?

7/9 1:58pm

Jesse: just setting up a ton of interviews which is annoying. Prob need to take a shower since I’m covered in sawdust from yardwork. Sweating also, that’s something I’m doing since its so damn hot

7/9 2:01pm

Tanyn: so you just came back in and sat down without cleaning up?

7/9 2:01pm

Jesse: without cleaning myself up

Jesse: yes

 

7/15 1:25pm

Jesse: Do you want to grab a coffee today at 3pm? Or just later this week?

7/15 1:28pm

Tanyn: 3 works

7/15 3:13pm

Jesse: you outside?

 

7/16 9:03am

Jesse: I’m so excited you have a Jesse day today

7/16 9:04am

Tanyn: I was slightly confused by this statement, like aren’t you around every day? Then I remembered I’m taking a long lunch

7/16 3:45pm

Jesse: hey question

Jesse: if you were me, being that I am cheap and don’t care, would you go get a professional to cut my hair or just keep doing it at home knowing results are meh

7/16 3:46pm

Tanyn: always go get it cut professionally

Tanyn: it’s a way out of the house

7/16 3:47pm

Jesse: you’re hilarious but I could spend that time wood working

7/16 3:47pm

Tanyn: the place will have air-conditioning… 

(He abruptly stopped cutting his hair at home and asking me to help him and when I questioned him about it – he gave me some bs reason)

7/16 4:07pm

Jesse: I hope you have a great hike and get sweaty 

 

7/17 1:56pm

Tanyn: Not going to lie, I could get used to having “Jesse days”. It’s kinda nice

7/17 3:51pm

Jesse: see I do this for you. Bummer not seeing you 1.5 was better but really looking forward to TRX

7/17 3:53pm

Tanyn: I really wish I could go to that TRX class. Like so badly

 

7/18 11:30am

Tanyn: also – I decided I’m going to come in tomorrow

7/18 11:32am

Jesse: yay I’m so excited!!!

 

7/23 12:31pm

Jesse: therapy time, yay

7/23 2:48pm

Jesse: I’m beyond gross and sweaty. I’ll go over there and tell them I’m interested Jesse: and talk about how I got kicked out and have broken leases, etc. 

7/23 2:48pm

Tanyn: omg ew

Tanyn: but I bet they would respond to you and offer the lease immediately

7/23 2:49pm

Jesse: and then guess what

Jesse: you and me move in

Jesse: just kidding?

7/23 2:50pm

Tanyn: you would make a better roommate

Tanyn: and you would kill the ants

7/23 2:51pm

Jesse: I would be so stoked to have you as a roommate

Jesse: we would both clean up after ourselves equally, put things away, host all the time

Jesse: also be gone enough so we don’t annoy each other

Jesse: go to sleep early, wake up early, have breakfast/brunch, clean up and have a day

Jesse: I mean the possibilities 

7/23 2:51pm

Tanyn: that sounds lovely

Tanyn: btw I’m still sitting in a room filled with piles of his shit

(Jesse sent a photo of a pair of shoes not put away to show Tanyn what a slob I am)

 

 

7/30 11:28am

Tanyn: lol

Tanyn: but look at all that extra floor space you have

7/30 11:30am

Jesse: that’s true, didn’t show you the 3 shirts and pair of jeans on the counter

7/30 11:32

Tanyn: I’m sorry

Tanyn: but I understand completely

7/30 11:44am

Jesse: so neat

Jesse: have fun at tacos

7/30 11:44am

Tanyn: we will

Tanyn: we’re at the same table as last time

7/30 2:20pm

Jesse: you are really funny

Jesse: and it bothers me sometimes

Jesse: because you are so quick

Jesse: but I secretly love it

7/30 2:25pm

Tanyn: I just want you let you know that I couldn’t wait to send that and had to send while driving

 

7/31 8:40am

Jesse: ah man I’m sorry, let me know when you can come up for air so I can distract with pointless non work related things

7/31 8:41am

Tanyn: I’m technically free all day except for that HR leadership meeting so whenever you want

7/31 8:41am

Jesse: it’s literally nothing at all, just wanting to distract you per usual

Jesse: but I will steal you today at some point

7/31 10:54am

Tanyn: you were right, there’s a candle lab on our agenda

7/31 11:48am

Jesse: candlemaking seems like the lamest thing ever

7/31 11:48am

Tanyn: you’re secretly stoked

7/31 11:50am

Jesse: gonna carve a phallic candle

7/31 4:21pm

Jesse: am I that needy and you just don’t need me

7/31 4:54pm

Tanyn: ok that was sad

7/31 4:54pm

Jesse: I’m trying to woo you

Jesse: #clifton

 

8/1 9:36am

Tanyn: thanks for meeting

8/1 9:39am

Jesse: you know I love meeting with you

 

8/2 1:05pm

Jesse: yay for it not being my fault. You need to get out of there ASAP

Jesse: I’ll tell Megan you might be a bit late

Jesse: will save you a spot on my reformer

8/2 1:06pm

Tanyn: I’ll just take the $15 charge

 

8/16 9:09am

Jesse: obviously

Jesse: also so much fun Wednesday night

8/16 9:10am

Tanyn: it really was

(There was a team dinner on Wednesday night. Jesse and Tanyn grabbed drinks together after the dinner)

 

8/20 10:40am

Jesse: hey

Jesse: important?

Jesse: are we still doing pilates together even though we have a presentation that afternoon?

8/20 10:41am

Tanyn: hahaha

Tanyn: yes

Tanyn: I don’t think we need to cancel. I have a good 30 minutes from end of class to start of meeting

8/20 10:42am

Jesse: ok good, that makes me happy

 

8/21 9:53am

Jesse: you are still the best

8/21 9:54am

Tanyn: thanks, I try

8/21 10:16am

Jesse: Tanyn – I had so much fun on Wednesday

Jesse: I now I’ve said that a lot but really so great and let me clarify, once we left RA

8/21 10:21am

Tanyn: I definitely had a lot of fun too

(They are referring to the drinks they grabbed together after the team dinner)

8/21 4:33pm

Tanyn: I still feel useless, I never realized how often I spend money until I can’t

8/21 4:34pm

Jesse: I’ll keep some comments oP teams

Jesse: too bad we aren’t in person

8/21 4:34pm

Tanyn: too bad or thank god?

8/21 4:34pm

Jesse: it is my career or personality asking?

8/21 4:36pm

Tanyn: good question

 

8/22 8:37am

Tanyn: you ready for darts today?

8/22 8:37am

Jesse: so I had to cancel

Jesse: super annoyed

8/22 8:37am

Tanyn: oh no! 

Tanyn: what happened? Everything ok?

8/22 8:38am

Jesse: kid coverage stuff at the last minute. Ya everythings ok outside of my personal time

(Jesse is upset because he had to pick up the kids from school instead of me so he couldn’t hang out after work hours with Tanyn)

8/22 9:14am

Jesse: also going to try this 4 mile loop. Takes me right by Peters canyon (Tanyn lives in Peters Canyon)

Jesse: jkjk

8/22 9:14am

Tanyn: haha, knock if you swing by my place

8/22 9:14am

Jesse: more of a throw rocks at your window, kinda a romantic

8/22 9:15am

Tanyn: ha ok, I’ll listen for small rocks then

8/22 9:51am

Jesse: I would have died if I tried running to you

8/22 9:52am

Tanyn: that sentence out of context would be so strange

 

8/23 12:45pm

Jesse: Sorry, I’m an apprentice at an AC company

8/23 12:46pm

Tanyn: you’re crushing it

8/23: 12:49pm

Jesse: “you’re as hot as a furnace” “is it hot in here or did I just fix your heating?” “ma’am, I just turned on your cooling but you’re the one making it hot in here” “I’m your nest, will you turn me on” “I’ll make it so cold your nipples will cut glass” “the vents wont be the only things blowin”

Jesse: any keepers?

8/23 12:51pm

Tanyn: the last one (Tanyn expressed to Jesse how much she enjoyed giving blow jobs)

Tanyn: it’s like you’re already a pro

8/23 3:54pm

Jesse: please don’t throw away a perfectly good outfit

Jesse: can I share one really funny pickup line I just saw as I was googling AC pickup lines

8/23 3:54pm

Tanyn: oh no

Tanyn: stop googling

8/23 3:54pm

Jesse: ok ok

Jesse: geez

8/23 3:54pm

Tanyn: but yes, share

8/23 3:55pm

Jesse: dang girl, your bone structure is giving my bone structure

8/23 3:55pm

Tanyn: no

Tanyn: I would love to see someone actually try and use that

8/23 3:56pm

Jesse: I love it and I am giggling

Jesse: if we go to a happy hour, I’ll give it a try on a stranger

Jesse: I promise

Jesse: surprisingly only been slapped twice

8/23 3:57pm

Tanyn: please no, I don’t want you to get thrown out then I have to decide if I stay or not… Tanyn: only twice?

 

8/27 3:01pm

Tanyn: also we wants to know how Pilates went

8/27 3:01pm

Jesse: you can tell her I sweat a lot and you are fine

Jesse: but I couldn’t really see each other which was unfortunate

8/27 3:02pm

Tanyn: I could see you okay if I just tilted my head to the left but its not the same as besides each other

Tanyn: also I didn’t want Nikki to see me looking

8/27 3:03pm

Jesse: lol ya I had to be so subtle during the warm up stretch

Jesse: kinda like really blown away fyi

Jesse: not like you don’t know that, but like wow

8/27 3:06pm

Tanyn: you did really good, from what I could see

8/27 3:07pm

Jesse: also please tell Kat the comment we got at Ralphs

(A stranger asked at Ralphs if they were newlyweds to which Jesse replied “yes”)

 

8/28 8:26am

Jesse: how was last night?

8/28 8:26am

Tanyn: it was lovely

Tanyn: you missed out on a good walk

8/28 9:22am

Jesse: next avails for pilates?

8/28 9:23am

Tanyn: ummm unsure…

Tanyn: what are you thinking?

8/28 9:24am

Jesse: well you hate mid day stuff right? For me that’s the best but maybe we can find a good time that suits us both

8/28 9:27am

Tanyn: I can do midday, I just hate parking there

8/28 9:27am

Jesse: well tbh you didn’t park at pilates

Jesse: you parked at ralphs

 

9/3 8:37am

Jesse: I hope you had a great weekend doing all the things you wanted to do

9/3 8:38am

Tanyn: you know, it was pretty good

Tanyn: did you get to hike?

9/3 8:39am

Jesse: I did, I went on two 7 mile hikes which was awesome

Jesse: both solo was more awesome

9/3 8:39am

Tanyn: oh yay

Tanyn: I’m happy for you

(We took a family trip up to Big Bear with 3 other families and he was so glad that he didn’t have anyone join him on the hikes)

 

9/5 7:42am

Tanyn: you are insane. Need me to pick up coffee?

Tanyn: want the d?

9/5 7:42am

Tanyn: hahaha

9/5 7:42am

Jesse: Dunkin

9/5 7:43am

Tanyn: always

 

9/12 8:32am

Jesse: also my body was sore until about 6pm on Tuesday

Jesse: like wtf happened to me

Jesse: I’m going to have to try to not have a breathe so damn loud complex

Jesse: can’t wait

Jesse: ha

9/12 8:33am

Tanyn: I’m sorry I gave you a breathing complex… it really wasn’t that bad

9/12 8:33am

Jesse: by definition, still bad

Jesse: it’s totally fine, I’ve literally ruined like half your wardrobe

9/12 8:34am

Tanyn: you really have

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